On Transitions and Adult Decisions

With transitions often comes a feeling of untethering for me. Not always, but often.

While I intellectually I understand that change is the one constant in life, I don’t always want to embrace it. Sometimes I’m afraid of it, sometimes I dread it.

It’s in those moments that I’m in resistance.

As author Florence Shin say in The Game of Life and How to Play It, there are three simple rules to life: fearless faith, non-resistance, and love. If you and I have been in any kind of conversation lately, most likely you’ve heard me quote this. Because I’m working on it. Do I embrace these three simple rules all the time? Of course not… because I forget and I can find myself in deep resistance and fear of the unknown. So, the more I talk about it, the more I hope to remember it in the moments when I really need to embrace it.

As the author writes in the book, resistance is hell.

Transitions and Adult Decisions

My husband and I are making adult decisions now. What will serve us, our family, and our evolution the best? What is in the highest good for all? What does the path that is being laid out before us look like? What are our dreams for our future?

When I asked my husband recently, how does he want to feel? He replied, “Peace.” My word is: “Free.” Peace and freedom. Just writing that, my shoulders drop and I exhale a deep breath.

And so, we are in a time of transition: Watching our son entering a new stage of his life as he plans to go to college in the fall and steps into a future of exciting possibilities and opportunities. Watching our daughter thoughtfully navigate her last years of high school. An empty nest is coming and it’s happening sooner than we would admittedly like.

We are also turning a watchful eye onto ourselves, with honesty and transparency. What do we want to sustain? How can we move deeper into our authenticity and truth as we grow, both physically and spiritually. Where might we land as we move forward? Where — and how — do we see ourselves living in our future?

We met as two young people who, without a penny to our name, lived in a van, toured around the United States and parts of Europe, slept on strangers’ floors, met the most compassionate and generous people, sang songs, and lived out our dreams. Day to day. We felt free.

And we sustained this lifestyle until… it no longer felt free. And so we changed, and moved towards a new future, of finding a community, a home, a family. Settling in.

Now, we are making choices again, moving through the resistance of letting go of what we know and moving into a place of new possibilities. Transitions. It’s both a little scary and exciting. What’s next?

Change is tender and vulnerable and inevitable. This is why I continue to come back to my spiritual practice, day after day, deepening my connection to something greater than myself. So that my inner dictates my experience, and not the outer. So that I can come back to peace, over and over again. So that I can see change as something this is for me and for my highest evolution.

When I choose to let go of resistance, suddenly I am able to see light through the trees.

ABOUT THAT PEACE

In one of my spiritual books, The Freedom Transmissions, Yeshua (as channeled by Carissa Schumacher) says that,

“Above all, what God’s greatest Hope for you is … that you will not only find Peace but rest in Peace in life.

Thus, if you wish to have hope for others within your life, hope for, Pray for, their Peace. Not just their happiness, not just relationships that work, good health… hope for their Peace. If you wish to serve them, no matter what they are experiencing, offer them the vine of Peace — through simplicity, humility, gratitude, and compassion. Look for those that hope and Pray the same for you. For they are the greatest of your Beloveds.”

And so, we are asking, what did we come into our lifetime to do? What is our mission? How can we explore? What are we moving into?

This takes a honest look at what is, so that we can look at the possibilities of what’s next.

So that we can rest in Peace in life.

A DAILY EXERCISE TO HELP US MOVE FROM SELF-FOCUS TO OUTER-FOCUS

Recently I re-read notes I took when I saw Gabby Bernstein speak in Los Angeles at the top of this year.

She suggested something that I’ve started doing. She said that when we find ourselves in fear or doubt about our life and our future, to ask ourselves, “How can I be in service today?”

And every day for 30 days ask: “Who can I serve?”

Essentially we are asking where we can offer that vine of Peace.

A question I like to ask God or Yeshua every day after I meditate is:

What would LOVE do?

I also ask:

Today, what do I need to know? Where do I need to go? What do I need to say, and to whom?

I first heard this from Marianne Williamson… and it’s helpful. Try it, if you’re feeling called. Substitute the word God for whatever feels good to you, such as the Universe, Infinite Intelligence, Gaia, and so forth. But, if you’re feeling stuck, scared, uncertain, fearful, cloudy… simply ask. And then let yourself be guided.

May peace and freedom be yours today and everyday. May peace and freedom be for everyone.